When you admire her intelligence, it simultaneously alerts her that you may have the potential to be a viable partner.
Compliment her character. Humans of all genitalia take pride in their personalities—we all work hard to build ours our whole lives. Therefore, it means a lot more to a woman that you recognize her optimism or confidence or generosity than it does to recognize her legs.
Acknowledge a style choice over a physical attribute. Of course it’s nice to hear you have nice eyes, but it’s nicer to hear that you’re wearing a color that goes well with your eyes. Why? Because having nice eyes is not something we can control. It’s not a choice we’ve made, but rather something we’ve been given. Acknowledging something we’ve done to enhance that is a far more personal compliment. An open conversation with your rheumatologist about your RA symptoms is key to finding the right treatment plan. Learn how you can prepare for your doctor visit.
Admit to her wits. Everyone’s a comedian—except they’re not. Everyone just likes to think they’re funny, so there’s an inevitable sense of fulfillment when we make other people laugh. This doesn’t mean having to tell her she’s hilarious; it may suffice to offer a chuckle here and there (even if it’s forced).
Admire her intelligence. Sapiosexuality means finding intelligence the most sexually attractive feature. Many women would identify as sapiosexual and are oftentimes looking for the same level of brainpower, curiosity and respect for “real talk.” When you admire her intelligence, it simultaneously alerts her that you may have the potential to be a viable partner.
Flatter her family and friends. In a lot of cases, if her family or friends don’t approve of you, she won’t approve of you. If you can secure their good sides, you’re doing well. Plus, she’ll appreciate that you respect her roots because, after all, that’s a compliment to her, too, and she’s probably proud of the company she keeps.