Now that the holidays are over and we’re days into 2023, Dry January is in full effect for some. It’s a month-long break from alcohol and that can be challenging for those participating, especially when they’re met with certain comments. The thing is, even with the best intentions, questions or remarks about why someone isn’t drinking can come off as judgemental or rude.
These are the Dry January comments experts say you’re better off keeping to yourself:
- “Are you pregnant?” - This question is rude anytime, not just when someone isn’t drinking.
- “Can’t you have just one drink?” - Saying this sends a message to the participant that you don’t support what they’re doing and it’s best not to try to peer pressure them about it.
- “Do you have a problem?” - The reason anyone participates in an alcohol-free month like Dry January or Sober October is personal. Many folks do it as a lifestyle choice, not because they struggle with alcohol. Either way, it’s none of your business.
- “What an accomplishment!” - People may say this to be encouraging, but it can come across like those who don’t choose to not drink for a month are doing something wrong.
- “How are you going to de-stress without alcohol?” - This implies that you think their only coping mechanism is alcohol, instead of exercise, sleep, socializing with friends and all kinds of other ways they could be managing their stress.
- “Do you miss alcohol?” - Deciding to be sober while everyone around you keeps drinking alcohol can be tough, and even if they miss it, they might not want to talk to you about it.
- What to say instead - If you want to support someone who’s doing a Dry January, instead of asking potentially triggering questions, try a simple, “How can I support your dry month?” Continue inviting them to get-togethers, just like you would any time, don’t assume that they won’t want to go out just because they’re not drinking. If you’re hosting a gathering, make sure to have good nonalcoholic beverages available for them.
Source: Huff Post